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I used to think if I could just figure it out…everything would calm down.

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You’ve just been practicing the opposite for a long time.

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Have you ever finally had a free moment…

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This is a question I hear all the time. (And one I’ve asked myself for years.)

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This is a question I didn’t know how to answer for a long time.

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I can’t tell you how many times I’ve thought:

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We talk a lot about showing up.

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Just smile and nod.\nBut not too much...then you’re fake.

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I can be laughing one minute.

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I recently realized that somewhere along the way, I decided it was my job to fix everything.

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“I’m sorry, what did you say?”\n“I’m sorry to hear that.”\n“I’m sorry, I don’t think I got a copy of that email.”\n“I’m sorry you’re going through that.”

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Trying to manage how other people see me is a full-time job with terrible benefits.

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Spoiler alert: That voice inside your head? The one that roasts your every move like a middle-school bully? Yeah…it’s not actually you.

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There’s this version of me who is gentle, warm, and endlessly encouraging. She’s the kind of soft that makes people breathe easier in her presence. She listens deeply. She genuinely wants everyone to feel valued, appreci...

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So…I Broke a Year Ago. And if you looked at me today, you’d never guess it.

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I did it.\nSomehow I actually let myself DO it.

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For years, I tied my worth to my productivity — every task completed, every “exceeds expectations” earned. But when I finally reached the top of that invisible ladder, I realized I’d just been climbing further away from ...

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