I'm Kristen B. Lenzen: Sustainable Success Coach, founder of The Soothing Spark, married to Bruce, my best friend long before he was my husband, mom of our two boys, and the woman who spent years being everything to everyone before she finally learned to come back to herself.
You haven't stopped caring. You've stopped having anything left to give. I help purpose-driven humans build Sustainable Ambition through the SPARK Framework™: not by pushing harder, but by starting exactly where you are and building from there: steadily, gently, and in real life. Because thriving shouldn't cost you everything.
I spent most of my life being the person everyone expected me to be. I climbed the corporate ladder in the legal world, hit every milestone, and excelled at every role handed to me. I was reliable, capable, and very, very good at holding it together.
From the outside, it looked like I had it all figured out. From the inside, I was running on empty and had no idea how to stop.
I finally told the truth to my family. Completely vulnerable. Terrified they would leave. I said the things I had been swallowing for years, the things I had convinced myself weren't allowed to be said out loud.
They didn't leave. They loved me back to life.
And in the weeks that followed, something unexpected happened. Every woman I talked to responded the same way: "Me too." Not one or two. Every single one. It was quiet and it was immediate and it cracked something open in me.
I signed up for a coaching certification for my own mental health: not because I had a business plan, but because I desperately needed the tools for myself. The Soothing Spark opened organically from there. Because what I was learning was too important to keep to myself.
Now I give a voice to the invisible struggle. I share what I've learned: the real stuff, the hard stuff, the stuff you're not supposed to say out loud: with women who are suffering in silence while being everything to everyone around them.
You don't have to earn your way back to yourself. You just have to be willing to start.
Kristen B. Lenzen · Founder, The Soothing Spark
These aren't just brand words. They're the principles I've built my own life around, sometimes the hard way.
The soft-hearted smartass, in her natural habitat.
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I am not going to hand you a productivity framework and tell you to push harder. I'm going to sit with you in the thing first. Name it. Validate it. Make sure you know that what you're feeling makes complete sense.
My coaching style is warm, direct, slightly sarcastic, and emotionally safe. I'll say the thing you've been thinking but didn't know you were allowed to say out loud. And I'll deliver it in a way that lands like a best friend, not a lecture.
I'm a soft-hearted smartass. Depending on who you ask.
I lead with curiosity, not judgment. I'll ask the question you haven't asked yourself yet. And I'll meet you at S and P before I ever ask you to climb to K.
Because you should know who you're spending time with. I'm 41, I live in the Greater Milwaukee Area with my husband Bruce and our two boys Jake (15) and Noah (12). And here's the real stuff.
The podcast is free. The quizzes are free. And all of it starts exactly at S: where everything else actually begins.